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Romance: The Internal Process
April 25, 2003
Author: Justin Luyt
If you grew up in the 80s like I did, you might remember
the group Depeche Mode and their hit "Just Can't Get
Enough." It is a song about being obsessed with the idea of
being with someone, about needing another person. Romance
easily becomes this addiction when we believe that we are
not complete without someone else and that we simply cannot
get enough of the blissful feeling we get when we are with
him or her. When we believe we need the romance to be
complete, we are in trouble for we are perfect and
complete, connected to the world at all times - we merely
need to choose to acknowledge that we are.
In a very special way, romantic relationships are that
journey back to love, back to the knowing that we are all
part of a macrocosm called Life and that we can access the
wonders of love, compassion, understanding, harmony, peace
and more, simply by making such choices.
Physically, we're all made basically the same way, save for
gender differences. But whether one is Madonna, Prince
Charles, me, you or the waitress that served you lunch
today, our bodies all operate in a similar manner. The way
we behave and our ideas about things stems from
psychological differences. Different ways in which we think
cause us to make certain decisions.
We have the tendency to label our romantic partners as
being special. There's a price to pay for special love if
we are not careful. Telling a person that he or she is
"special" projects the idea that the person possesses
something you do not. This implies that you are not
complete without them. Or in other words, that you need
them. Everyone holds all the potential in the world within.
Thus, our projection of being "half complete" is a false
thought of guild, for innately we know we are connected to
our source, but our Ego denies that truth.
So where do I start with this shift in perception? True
Intimacy is of the mind, not of the body. Having sex with a
person does not create intimacy in any way. You can sleep
with someone, or even live with someone, for years and not
experience intimacy. Authentic self-expression is the key
to true intimacy in romantic relationships, as well as in
all other relationships. Getting to a place where you can
authentically share your feelings and experiences is where
I suggest you begin in order to create true intimacy with
someone.
At Romance Coaching, you partake in Transformational
Education that strengthens your beliefs about yourself. You
might find that you restrict yourself and not take a leap
to meet new people, or you simply find you are in a
relationship but lack intimacy. Think what you believe
about yourself. Do you believe you deserve a long lasting
Romantic Relationship? What are your thoughts about
Intimacy, Affection, Love, Sex?… Really think…
Our Transformational Education has one aim – …to develop
the skill of Romance.
Loving-kindness, Justin Luyt
Justin Luyt has been consulting and training individuals
and corporations for over 10 years. Over time, Justin has
become very aware of the needless limitations people lay
upon themselves and he has developed cutting edge tools,
allowing them to be guided through the creation of a new
life. He has found a perception on romantic relationships
that makes the journey very easy and has chosen to educate
people in regaining their romantic power as well as
creating impeccable relationships. Conatc him on
justin@Romancecoaching.biz and 1.877.391.8624. Remember to
see his website on http://www.RomanceCoaching.biz
About the author:
Justin Luyt has been consulting and training individuals
and corporations for over 10 years. He has developed
cutting edge tools, allowing people to be guided through
the creation of a new life. Contact him on
justin@Romancecoaching.biz and 1.877.391.8624. Remember to
see his website on http://www.RomanceCoaching.biz
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